Positive affirmations as they are typically done, do not work for me, and I am certain that is also true for a lot of other people who are also neurodivergent, and others as well. But, the idea has value, and affirmations can be approached in ways that will work even for those of us who recoil at typical positive affirmations.
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As far back as I can remember into my childhood, I wanted to live a life free from regrets. Now that I am in my 40’s I have a rather large number of them, but I also do not feel like I let myself down. When I said “free from regrets”, what I really meant was “wouldn’t go back to change it if I could.” Accumulating regrets is a natural part of living, and although I do regret how things turned out now and again, I respect and understand all my choices that led up to those things. I can’t think of a single one where I look back and genuinely wish I had made another choice.
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One of the community agreements of Between the Veils is accountability. When the closing ceremony of The Gathering Paths 2022 included aspects that were predictably triggering for those with Christian religious trauma, I expected BTV to adhere to its principles of accountability. Instead, here I am six months later, explaining how an otherwise amazing event was spoiled by hypocrisy and lack of integrity.
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This shadow work sigil aids in efforts to address the root causes of self-sabotage and lack of follow-through, so that you can follow through on what you know is best for you.
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Chapter 3 – Critical introspection is the ability to objectively and critically evaluate the internal workings of your own consciousness. No matter how daunting that may seem, it is an essential tool for improving or healing your mental/emotional self, because without it you are never going to be able to address the root causes of any issues. Developing this skill was essential to my healing journey.
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Chapter 2 – My capacity for Perfect Trust is one of the things I value about myself, so even if it has brought pain from time to time, I will always be proud of myself for having it and giving it to those I choose to have in my life.
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While no one piece of advice is ever going to apply to all witches, let alone all spoonie and/or disabled witches, I want to share advice about how I approach having a magical practice. These spoonie witchcraft tips are things that I do in my own practice that help to ease the spoon costs of doing witchcraft, and help with managing my chronic illness.
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Deluding yourself, lying to yourself, might seem bad, but it can feel amazingly good. It allows us to have hope and feel good about bad situations, helps to cushion the psyche against ongoing trauma and abuse, and helps us keep equilibrium in difficult situations.
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How the concept of “don’t speak ill of the dead” is typically utilized is fraught with dismissal and erasure. Every time someone problematic dies, it is nearly inevitable to hear statements of “don’t speak ill of the dead,” but who does that idea serve? What benefit does it have? Certainly, if we want to learn from the past and honor those who have been harmed by people now deceased, we must speak honestly of the dead, even if being honest means speaking ill.
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I have mentioned repeatedly in various articles that it is important to be completely honest with yourself, especially when engaging with shadow work. I also usually include a few words about how critical it is to be compassionate and non-judgmental in your honesty, but what exactly does that mean? How do you avoid being hyper-critical or beating yourself up when you are honest with yourself about things you do not like? It is far easier said than done, but I believe that process works best with loving honesty instead of brutal honesty.
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